Don Gaconnet
Architect of Identity Collapse™
“Official Open Access Archive via OSF: Identity Collapse Therapy Scientific Series” - https://osf.io/y9tp6/
Phone:
+1-262-207-4939
Email:
Address:
N3445 Como Road
Lake Geneva Wisconsin 53147 - USA
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What I Offer: A Threshold, Not a Service
Most people come to me not because they’re lost—
but because what used to work has stopped making sense.
They’ve done the healing.
They’ve built the business.
They’ve lived the insight, the breakdown, the return.
But somewhere along the way, they realized:
“I’m still performing something I no longer believe in.”
That’s not failure.
That’s the beginning of collapse—not as destruction, but as completion.
My Private Work
I work privately with individuals who are:
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Functioning externally but disconnected internally
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Done seeking answers, but still trapped in the loop of becoming
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No longer able to hold the version of self they’re known for
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Standing at a quiet threshold—and sensing something irreversible
I don’t offer advice.
I don’t coach performance.
I don’t help you become a better version of the old story.
I work inside structural collapse—gently, precisely, and with full containment.
The Format
I offer immersive 1:1 sessions—either full-day collapse intensives or three-session realignment protocols—designed to help you end one core identity pattern that no longer holds.
You don’t need to bring a goal.
You just need to tell the truth: what used to work… doesn’t anymore.
If something in your system has already begun ending—
this may be the space for what comes after.
Let me know if you're at the threshold.
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Don Gaconnet
Founder of Identity Collapse Therapy
LifePillar Institute
Ready for Something You Can’t Name Yet?
If you're here, it might be because something in your life—your success, your clarity, your sense of self—has quietly stopped feeling like you.
You may not need answers.
You may not even want change.
You may just need someone who understands what it feels like when the story no longer holds.
My private work isn’t therapy or coaching.
It’s quiet clarity—held without pressure, performance, or expectation.
If you're standing at a threshold and don’t quite know what’s next,
I’m here.
Book a private session or reach out here.
You don’t need to explain.
You’re already understood.
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Don Gaconnet
You’ve been searching for answers.
But the deeper you look, the more the answers unravel the one who’s asking.This is not a blog about growth.
It’s a record of what remains when the self can no longer hold itself together.Here you’ll find collapse papers, field frameworks, and post-identity writings—
structured by someone who walked out of identity,
and then built a system to show others how to do the same.
These aren’t teachings.
They’re echoes from the place where healing ends and structure begins.
If you’re still holding your self together—this will sound strange.
If you’ve already begun falling apart—this will feel like home.
~ Don Gaconnet
Collapse Is Not a Crisis. It’s a Return.
Most frameworks will try to help you become someone.
I help you exit the need to be anyone at all.
What begins as collapse becomes pattern-recognizing coherence—without ego, story, or striving.
I work exclusively with individuals, founders, creators, and systems thinkers who have already reached the edge of transformation models, therapeutic growth, or high-performance structures.
Collapse begins where mastery ends.
What You’ll Find Here...
You’ve built a self that works.
It leads. Performs. Provides. Survives.
And quietly… it’s dying.
Not in crisis. In fatigue. In truth.
Because it knows—it was never meant to last this long.
Here, you will find something different.
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A voice that doesn’t speak to your potential—
It speaks to the part of you that’s done pretending. -
A structure not built to improve identity—
But to hold you while it dissolves. -
Language that doesn't reflect you back—
It interrupts you. -
A man who walked out of the self—not spiritually, not therapeutically—
Structurally.
And built a system for those who must now do the same.
You will not be asked to integrate, transform, or heal.
You will be asked one quiet question:
Are you ready to stop being the one asking questions?
This is not a path for everyone.
But if you’ve already begun collapsing on your own,
You’ll feel the resonance. You’ll know.
There’s no pitch here.
Just architecture.
And if it’s time—
you’ll find your way in.